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Newcastle NLP Practice Group hosts monthly practice days on Saturday for you to increase and develop your NLP and Hypnotherapy skills. This coming May on the 12th there are some pre-arranged topics as well as what you would like to practice on the day.

There are three topics that I want to explore. These are going beyond pairs of opposites, changing habits and parts disintegration. I hope you will find these explorations valuable and enhance your uses of NLP and Hypnotherapy in ways that you can remember easily through practice.

“To move out into the world, you have to act in terms of pairs of opposites.” Joseph Campbell

One of the most useful aspects of change work is creating a space where habitual behavioural and thinking patterns can be changed. When we use language in normal ways there is a natural tendency dualistic expression. Words create categories or neat little boxes of descriptions which by nature are classification. Think depressed, happy etc.

Have you considered a description such as happily-depressed and depressingly-happy? There are no opposites in the real world, non whatsoever. A best there is a spectrum of words describing something more fundamental. For instance hot is not the real word opposite of cold. These words describe a relative temperature difference.

With this exploration we will be examining the methods and ways of adding this inclusive and validating component to making change more honest and appealing.

Changing Habits

“Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.” Mahatma Gandhi

We have, do and will form habits all of our life. Most of the time your habits are very useful. Sometimes habits, which are unconscious processes, form with the best of intentions yet can end up being extremely problematic and difficult to change.

All habits are formed with mostly an unconscious purpose that we can create a story about, to justify, explain or reason it’s nature. Changing a problem habit requires a change at the unconscious level and will be greatly helped by redefining the conscious reasons or story that accompanies such a habit.

One way to change unconscious habits is paradoxically to review in great detail consciously the whole kit and kaboodle. That means mentally replaying the entire ensemble of behaviour again and again. This can be thought of as a threshold pattern.

Parts Disintegration

“If you can’t solve a problem, then there is an easier problem you can solve: find it.” George Polya

Sometimes making a change can seem daunting, it can feel too big for you to deal with. If it was smaller perhaps you would feel better able to cope. How to make a problem smaller and ease the BIG CHANGE mentality. For example, take a problem like low self esteem. Of course you would ask a client ‘what do you mean by self esteem?’ So you wouldn’t be assuming you know what they mean. But, let’s take this another way.

If you enquire what are the smaller aspects, like a bicycle is made up of wheels, pedals, brakes and all that; you have the smaller components. You can then operate on the smaller components, knowing changing a smaller component changes the overall. Learning to sort for difference within these will necessarily change the whole.

I hope the three defined practice ideas is interesting to you. I hope to see you there at the Newcastle NLP Practice group this May.

Newcastle NLP Practice Group

NLP and Hypnotherapy Practice Day Newcastle

Venue : Jesmond Dene Conference Centre

Date : Saturday May 12

Only £20

18 Places maximum